What turns you on?

After a big sleepover with guys and girls, the inevitable conversation related to sex came up, and this weeks topic was "What turns you on?". The group´s pervert immediately brought out short mini skirts, wonderbra´s and his all time favourite... fishnet stockings! As the question got flown around the room answers kept varying and I suddenly realised that I had my next Sunshine´s Column topic!

Research brought me a vast amount of answers and the results were beyond my imagination! High heels, blood red nails, dark lipstick, white pants, panty lines, belly rings... the list is endless!!! I was alarmed to see how observant men really are when it comes to how women are dressed! So yeah girls, if you think he didn´t notice the coffee stain on your blouse, the huge zit on your forehead or the fact that your skirt is a slight bit too short... THINK again! We are scanned from head to toe the minute we walk through a door! Some of you might argue "That´s bullshit! I know plenty of guys who never remember what a girl was wearing two minutes after seeing her". I hate to break it you girls but truth is that that image is only saved in his memory file if it´s aproved by all the hormones in his body. Which means if he doesn´t remember what you were wearing, it didn´t catch his interest or he is faking disinterest. Even gay guys notice a women´s appearance and no matter how busy a man is, he will always take head to toe measurements before continuing on with what he was doing.

Not that women are very much different! In fact, I got wider and more detailed descriptions from the fairer sex! From tight jeans, open shirt, suit and ties, sunglasses to perfumes with all different kinds of exotic names. And we haven´t even gotten to anatomy yet! Answers ranged from firm buttocks, big hands, amazing smiles to big eyes and straight white teeth. Oh yes! All you have to do is figure out what turns your partner on and something as simple as a leather jacket can turn your evening from warm to volcanic heat!

As shallow as all of the above might be, the truth is that our hormones are programmed to be attracted to one or other feature of the opposite sex. However, although being tall, dark and handsome might attract attention, it won´t keep it unless you play your cards right. The next step involves pushing buttons and this may prove tricky as no two person´s buttons are the same. What might work for one person might not work for another... for instance, I still don´t see the pleasure in sucking someone´s toes but i´ve been told that it´s one of the most erotic sensations in the karma sutra. However, he who is wise enough to run his fingers through my hair has the power to make me swim around the world in a yellow polker dot bikini, lime green flippers, in the middle of winter and bring back a tuna fish that i´d prepare myself! Whispering seems to be a favourite among men although rough talk doesn´t fall far behind. Some like biting, other scratching, other feather light touches... all agreed that a massage is definitely a strong button to push! My research took me to a whole different spectrum of possibilities! Whole books could be written just on one of the many buttons above...

For instance... what more erotic than a kiss? How do you like yours? Do you like it hard, crushing your head against a wall? Or feather light... just enough for you to feel warm breath and leaving you wanting for more! Maybe you like those dry kisses where you feel lips moving erotically against lips... or wet involving tongue and the exchange of warm juices. How about the duration? A short quick, noisy kiss or is it a long, slow erotic one? kisses with lipstick? maybe you´re the kind that enjoys flavoured kisses? I myself use vanilla flavour... but getting back to the subject... we haven´t even begun discussing mode of delivery! Are surprise kisses better than those that you are expecting? Should he grab you to kiss you? Warn you that a kiss is coming? or just let that magnetic pull your lips together? From the lips should he travel to the neck? maybe a nibble on the earlobe? there´s so many places a kiss could stop on the way down...

Yes folks... the list is endless and I realised that there is no way that I could put all the different turn on´s on one column. I guess you just have to push a couple of buttons and figure it out for yourself... It´ll be the best research project you´ll ever do! Be inquisitive, take lots of notes and have lots of practicals! In a demanding modern world, experience is most valuable! Whatever you do, be adventurous and you might just discover things that you never knew could turn you on...