Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Plan B

Photo Source: Dan Heller

There are moments of pure ecstasy…
The ones that set you free to dream what you dare to dream without doubts…
Those in which you face the future with utter confidence..
And then suddenly…

The other moment…

Minutes before a car accident in Porto Santo, where I had my first experience (and hopefully last) with the exploding of an airbag; I had been jumping puddles in Calheta Beach with my little brother… blissfully happy.
After the accident my father turned to me and said “I knew something bad was going to happen – happiness is only momentary, something always comes along afterwards to screw it up”

It took me a while to shake those words… especially considering that happiness isn't everlasting. I came to the conclusion that neither happiness nor tragedy is everlasting… it can't rain all the time, and it isn't always raining.
However, the law of gravity states that what goes up… eventually comes down.

The other moment…
Is the feel of you coming down from the clouds… the realization that no matter how good things look, you're still on your own.
That no matter what you construct with others, plan B has always to be built on the foundation that you have to survive on your own, if all goes sour.

You can't go through life waiting for things to go wrong, and yet we live in times that force us to plan ahead for individual survival.
That’s life… That’s modern reality…

“Three men went sailing when their boats stopped in mid ocean. The negative man cried and prepared to die, the positive man sat and waited for the wind to blow again and the realist adjusted his sails…”

Even as a dreamer, I've never failed to be a realist… I can survive on my own, I dream of the day when I don't have to.

6 comments:

Luis Sardinha said...

É evidente de que nada é eterno mas aquilo que nos faz levantar da cama todos os dias é a crença de que as coisas más vão mudar e as coisas boas vão continuar...

Por mim, vais realizar o teu sonho...

Klatuu o embuçado said...

There are... want to know mine?
:)

Dark kiss.

Marco said...

Recomendo que leias este texto do Steve Jobs. Tem muito a ver com o que escreveste e ajuda a por as coisas em perspectiva.

Beijinhos

Marco

Liilavati said...

Priminha querida...

Os bons momentos e os momentos desafiantes são ambos importantes para o desenvolvimento do nosso potencial...Quando aprendemos a aceitar ambos com entrega, descobrimos que cada dificuldade tem o seu lugar de humor e ironia...E que é a prova ultima que o Universo confia em nós para cumprir até as tarefas mais complicadas.

E sem duvida que tu, melhor do que ninguem, sabes ultrapassar as adversidades com honra e personalidade...e que nada mais precisas do que a tua força interior...

De qualquer forma, sabes que estou aqui para qualquer ajuda que precises. Podes contar comigo para o plano A, plano B e todos os planos que forem precisos para seres muito feliz, como mereces!

Beijinhos

Anonymous said...

Survival seems to be opposite to happiness and enjoyment. This might strike as a little odd, but constantly having plan B’s imply that you haven’t used all your time to absorb all the experiences you could gather from life when it’s in one of it’s higher peaks.

It’s a matter of management. Knowing that you won’t be 100% happy, but you also won’t be 100% miserable. You have devised a safety net for when things work out wrong.

Having someone with you to share those worries is probably the best solution. That way, you can experience frames of pure happiness and enjoyment while you have your companion guarding the wall against those nasty problems that soil the best life has to offer. If you can change places with him, perfect. You can both take turns in stripping your armor from time to time and give some time off to the warrior within.

The only danger here is when instead of having someone to assist you while you rest, you get a problem child that don’t want to get off the cozy spot and you end up having to worry for two instead of just yourself. That someone gets one of a variety of nicknames: parasite, freeloader, among others, and it all leads to the same. You got screwed.
From what I remember from you, there is a slim chance that you chose someone like that. So you should be fine.

Life resembles an imperfect sine wave. It’s got ups and downs, but in an unpredictable manner. You have trouble in knowing when it’s going to change flank and you rarely know how long you will be in that state.

Plan B is a safety net, but beware that you might still fall thru it’s holes if they are too big or if the thread isn’t strong enough, it can bust. Accepting that you have no certainties in life and that no matter how many backup plans you devise, it can still fail, frees you from paranoid temptation of absolute control. That’s when you actually begin to enjoy life. You’ve accepted that you are not in control. So like a surfer, ride the wave, knowing that you cant control it, but you sure as hell can decide where to go in the possibilities the wave gives you, and what your skills will allow.

Sunshine said...

Anonymous: At the time I wrote this post, I wanted to say more than I got across. Call it a secret message for someone who understood reflection of what I wrote.
I happen to agree with you, I don´t carry around a plan B with me. I only stick to plan A and if it fails I just make another plan A. When I spoke of plan B, I was mostly referring to the rough back up plan you draw up in your mind when you´re in it with someone else...
And there´s the curveball, when you´re on your own you have no fear of screwing up. But when someone else´s life and feelings are at stake, you have the tendency to make a back up plan. Because you can deal with yourself if you get hurt, but it´s hard to deal with that fact that someone else hurts even when knowing they took on the challenge with you.
You know me well, I would never settle for someone who can´t match my strength however as you yourself pointed out, there are those few moments in which both parties shed their armour and somewhere in the middle there needs to be a joint strength to get through.
I particularly enjoyed your insight to this post due to the fact that you manage to point out some of issues that touch the hidden message.