The 18 Most Common Self-Defeating Behaviours in Business
Although this work is not my own, the reason I publish it is because I consider the following to be important foundations to those who wish to succeed as business men and women:
1. Procrastinating: If you're always late on completing things, people stop relying on you; soon they start resenting you.
2. Getting involved with the wrong people: Yes, there are bad people in the world. If you keep giving them the benefit of the doubt, you'll be the one who has to clean up the mess.
3. Saying yes when you want to say no: It will result in burnout, loss of credibility, and loss of respect from others and yourself.
4. Assuming others don't want anything in return: It is human nature to almost always want something in return, even when people say they don't. Thinking ahead about what that might be can save you problems when others try to collect.
5. Playing it safe: The world is in a rapid state of change. Doing the same old thing over and over and expecting it to be good enough may turn out not to be sosafe after all.
6. Always having to be right: Know-it-alls who don't know what they're talking about are jerks, whereas know-it-alls who do know what they're talking about are merely asses. Always having to be right can create so much resentment that you'd better always be right, because you're building a constituency of people who can't wait to see you fall on your face.
7. Focusing on what others are doing wrong: This is a de-motivating habit. Focusing on what the other person is not doing makes it difficult for you to keep trying hard.
8. Not learning from your mistakes: Successful people don't make fewer mistakes than unsuccessful people, but they repeat fewer mistakes.
9. Talking when nobody's listening: This leads you to think that what you have said is going to be done, when in fact it's not. To make matters worse, you have to repeat the entire process. And this time you're going to be angry.
10. Taking things too personally: When people take criticism too personally, instead of seeing that it is about fixing a problem, the problem becomes larger and takes longer to fix.
11. Having unrealistic expectations: When you confuse what is reasonable with what is realistic (it's reasonable to want to re-engineer your business; it's not realistic to do it all at once), you set yourself up to fail.
12. Trying to take care of everybody: You can't take care of everybody and do a decent job. In attempting to take care of everyone, nobody, including yourself, will be satisfied.
13. Refusing to "chit chat": Politics, schmoozing, and small talk are all necessary in order to create connections needed to succeed.
14. Being envious of others: Teamwork is ruined when team members envy each other to the extent that they root against each other.
15. Quitting too soon: You have more control over trying or quitting than over success or failure. If you always quit, you'll never succeed; if you always try, you'll eventually succeed.
16. Letting fear run your life: You were bad at science and math. The Internet is coming whether you like it or not. If you let fear run your life, it just might run you out of your job.
17. Not moving on after a loss: When you spend more time NOT cutting your losses than you do moving ahead, you can't move ahead.
18. Not asking for what you need: What's important to you is not necessarily important to others. If you don't ask for what you need-whether it's something to help you do your job, or a promotion - you're leaving it to other people's imaginations. If you think your well being is a high priority to them, you have a good imagination
(19 and 20 are Sunshine add on´s)
19. Believe in yourself and your product: if you don´t, no one else will
20. Be Honest and sincere: a client that trusts you will keep coming back.